Connection

Belonging andBeing Seen

People crave recognition and belonging. When users feel seen by a community and connected to others, they don't just return—they become your most vocal advocates.

What is Connection?

Connection is the psychological force that drives us to seek relationships, belonging, and social validation. It's about feeling part of something bigger than ourselves.

Social Belonging

We're wired to seek acceptance and connection with groups we identify with. Products that create communities tap into this fundamental human need.

Reciprocal Relationships

We feel compelled to return favors and maintain social balance. Products that enable mutual support create stronger engagement.

Real Products, Real Connection

See how successful products use Connection to build communities and drive engagement.

Strava

Fitness Tracking

What they do:

Shows your runs publicly to your network, lets others give 'kudos,' and displays segment leaderboards comparing you to local athletes.

Why it works:

Your workout isn't just personal data—it's social currency. Public kudos and segment rankings transform solo exercise into community participation and friendly competition.

Discord

Community Platform

What they do:

Creates voice and text channels where communities hang out in real-time, with roles, permissions, and always-on spaces for connection.

Why it works:

You're not messaging people—you're hanging out in a space. The always-on nature creates belonging through presence, not just interaction.

LinkedIn

Professional Network

What they do:

Makes professional connections visible, shows mutual connections, and displays public endorsements and recommendations from your network.

Why it works:

Your professional reputation becomes social proof. Endorsements from your network validate your skills more powerfully than any resume.

How to Strengthen Connection

Practical strategies to build relationships and community in your product.

1

Make Participation Visible

Show users who else is present and what they're doing

"Create ambient awareness of community. Spotify's 'Friend Activity' sidebar shows what your network is listening to right now—you're not alone, you're part of a shared experience."

2

Enable Public Recognition

Let users acknowledge each other's contributions where others can see

"Make appreciation visible to the group. Strava's kudos appear on your activity feed for your network to see—recognition from peers, witnessed by the community."

3

Show Social Proof at Decision Points

Display what similar users chose to guide behavior and create belonging

"Guide through peer behavior. Booking.com shows '23 people are looking at this hotel'—you're making decisions alongside others, not alone."

4

Build Reciprocity Loops

Create systems where helping others benefits everyone

"Make mutual benefit obvious. Dropbox's referral program gives both parties storage—helping others directly helps you, creating natural advocacy."

Connection Design Tactics

Specific tactics to strengthen Connection in your product. Each one is grounded in behavioral science and proven in real products.

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Social Proof

We look to others' behavior to guide our own

Example:

Booking.com's '23 people are looking at this hotel right now' creates urgency through peer behavior

Application:

Show user counts, display popular choices, highlight what similar users did, use testimonials from peers

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Public Recognition

Public acknowledgment motivates more than private rewards

Example:

Strava's kudos—visible recognition from your network motivates more than personal stats alone

Application:

Make achievements visible to others, enable peer acknowledgment, create public profiles, show social validation

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Shared Goals

Collective targets increase individual commitment

Example:

Fitness apps with partner challenges see 40% higher completion than solo goals

Application:

Create team challenges, show group progress, enable accountability partners, make success collective

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Reciprocity

People feel compelled to return favors

Example:

Dropbox giving extra storage for referrals—you got value, now help others get value

Application:

Give before asking, provide value upfront, make reciprocation easy and beneficial, create mutual benefit

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Authority Bias

Users attribute more importance to opinions from authority figures

Example:

'Recommended by experts' or 'As featured in...' signals credibility and guides decisions

Application:

Show expert endorsements, display credentials, use authority voices appropriately, build credibility through association

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Halo Effect

People judge things based on their feelings toward one trait

Example:

Apple's design excellence creates assumption that everything they make works beautifully

Application:

Excel at one visible thing, let that quality halo other aspects, make first impressions count

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Bandwagon Effect

Users adopt beliefs proportional to how many others already have

Example:

'Join 50,000+ users' signals safety and popularity—if that many people use it, it must be good

Application:

Show adoption numbers, display trends, highlight growing popularity, make joining feel safe through numbers

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Singularity Effect

Users care disproportionately about an individual vs. a group

Example:

Charity: Water showing one specific person whose life changed is more powerful than 'we helped 10,000 people'

Application:

Tell individual stories, show specific examples, make impact personal not statistical, humanize data

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Self-Expression

We seek ways to communicate our identity

Example:

Spotify's year-in-review becomes shareable because it reflects personal taste and identity

Application:

Enable profile customization, allow style choices, create shareable artifacts, let users show who they are

Also strengthens: Connection
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Exclusivity
In-Group Bias

We favor those who are part of our group

Example:

GitHub's green contribution graph signals 'you're a developer' to other developers—tribal membership

Application:

Create insider language/symbols, build visible membership tiers, show who else is in the group, use tribal signaling

Also strengthens: Connection
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Status Signaling

Visible markers of achievement drive behavior

Example:

LinkedIn's 'Top Voice' badge or Twitter's checkmark—signals others can see

Application:

Make status visible to others, create tiered badges, show rankings publicly, enable reputation building

Also strengthens: Connection
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Collective Impact

Showing aggregate contribution creates meaning

Example:

Wikipedia: 'This article has been read 2.3M times, and you edited it'—your work mattered to millions

Application:

Display total community impact, show individual contribution to whole, quantify collective achievement

Also strengthens: Connection
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Ready to Build Connection?

Start by evaluating where Connection fits in your motivational spine—then use these tactics to create the community and recognition that turns users into advocates.